Losing Both Battle and War

Today, GetEQUAL staged another protest. This time it was a two-pronged message; one was staged during President Obama’s speech at a campaign fundraiser for Barbara Boxer in Los Angeles last night. Today, Lt. Dan Choi and Capt. Jim Pietrangelo were joined by four other former military members in handcuffing themselves to the fence in front of the White House. It was the second time that Choi and Pietrangelo had done this.

GetEQUAL is comprised of gay rights activists to whom the details are unimportant. They have shown themselves willing to do almost anything short of running down Pennsylvania Avenue naked to get attention directed back at their cause: the repeal of the military’s “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. I’m not sure what I think about them just yet because I can’t find any verifiable information about the organization.

I know for damn sure that I disagree 100% with the methods by which Choi, Pietrangelo and their associates are getting their message across. I agree with them that we need equal rights but I don’t agree with the delivery. First of all, they are in their military uniforms. They are blatantly disrespecting their orders. I applaud them for standing up for Army Core Values. There are seven core values: Loyalty, Duty, Respect, Selfless Service, Honor, Integrity, and Personal Courage. Take one out and the rest crumble. For standing up for integrity and upholding their oaths, they have my gratitude and respect. I cannot abide them using their stand as a slap in the face to the rest of those values, though. There are both Republicans and Democrats holding out on repealing DADT, and their decisions will hinge on what their constituents want. If our actions turn their constituents off, we can kiss any possibility of equality good-bye for the forseeable future.

I have said for a very long time that we need to be wise in our approach to gaining equality. In 29 states it is currently still legal to fire an employee for being a homosexual. There are over 1,100 benefits and legal rights that are denied gay and lesbian people in the United States, among them laws that actually restrict one’s ability to pass creative and intelligence rights on to a non-related, non-married partner (meaning royalties for published writings or music can only be passed to relatives). There are several rights we still need to strive for, but doing whatever we can to get everyone’s attention isn’t going to get us there.

A few pointers. First of all, simply denying NAMBLA from marching in Pride parades or having booths at Pride festivals isn’t enough. Guys like Kevin Jennings need to renounce their time following Harry Hay, who supported NAMBLA (as well as the communist governments that round up homosexuals and send us to labor camps). Organizations such as GLSEN need to stop promoting gay rights to children in elementary school, stop putting books like “Am I Blue,” “Heather Has Two Mommies” and “…And Tango Makes Three” in elementary school libraries. They need to remove sexually explicit material of any kind from their suggested reading list, because frankly it is appalling that anyone is suggesting that seventh graders read books such as Queer 13. It’s mortifying to me that books like that are being suggested for anybody under the age of 18. To me, it comes awfully close to sexual abuse.

Stop holding gay sex seminars disguised as gay rights seminars. High schoolers do not need to be sent to classes in these seminars where the keynote speaker is going to encourage them to graphically describe their sexual fantasies in front of God and everybody and then go on to show them the proper hand positions for certain unmentionable acts.

Do you really think this kind of thing isn’t absolutely disgusting? If this is normal for you, there is something seriously wrong with your psyche and you should not EVER work with children. What kids learn in our society should be left up to their parents whether we agree with what their parents are teaching them or not. Keep pushing and, as we’ve all seen, they WILL push back. And there’s a hell of a lot more of them than there are of us. Being equal does not mean that we need to take their rights away. The instant we do that we’ll set ourselves up for the same loss down the road.

Yes, we deserve equality. We absolutely deserve equality. We’re every bit as human as anybody else. We live, breathe, love, bleed, cry and laugh the same way they do. Our rights, however, are not the most important thing here. We MUST be careful how and where we tread lest we lose not only the battle, but the war also.

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8 thoughts on “Losing Both Battle and War

  1. Well, Mel, now you’ve given them the idea to run naked and screaming down the street to protest DADT. If they do, it’s on your head. *snort*

    What Choi is doing frustrates me incredibly. He was back drilling with his unit prior to these little attention fits, and it seemed like he might be the test case to drop the rule. Now he’s added fodder to the “See? They’re all drama queens!” fire. And the catch-22 is that homosexuals who are honorably serving within the confines of DADT can’t come out without being seen as repeating his behavior (even though there is a vast gulf between chaining yourself in uniform to the White House fence and admitting that your roommate is your significant other).

    What getEqual doesn’t seem to understand about their behavior is that servicemembers need to be seen as a part of the whole before their individual traits – whatever they may be. Because someone’s color, gender, or sexual orientation matter little compared to their ability to have the back of their fellows.

    With the antics they choose to use, getEqual is creating a separate identity for gay servicemembers, when in reality their primary identity should be the same as those around them. When you are in the military, you are MILITARY first and gay second. MILITARY first and straight second.

    I know, because I’ve had to suck that fact up in my own marriage. It’s just the way it is, lives depend on it. I’m not perfect, and there are times when I’ve given my husband a horrible time over coming second. But really – if I take his mind off his mission and someone dies…

    It’s a harsh fact, but it’s the truth.

    And while there are servicemembers who are anti-gay and don’t want DADT to fall, there are also many, many who could give a crap what someone’s sexual orientation is as long as they do their job and are a part of the team. getEqual’s antics don’t make them part of the team, they set them apart.

  2. Sometimes, the news is so disheartening.

    I’ve though for sometime now, that the left would *love* to dump gay issues from it’s list of concerns, at lease in places that aren’t in southern California. Choi, GetEQUAL, and the usual suspects are making supporting gay issues less and less popular with straight working class Americans. I wonder if they can see the damage they are doing?

    I’ve lately taken to posting on Hannity’s forum as well, in the hopes that at least a few straight conservatives and moderates can see that not all homosexuals are rabid fruitcakes.

  3. AFW, I thought about that this morning as I was hitting the showers…by that time it was too late to take it back!

    Longview, I post on a lot of conservative forums in the hopes that I can prove the stereotype of the typical gay person wrong. I don’t like being forced into someone else’s descriptive box.

  4. “I’ve though for sometime now, that the left would *love* to dump gay issues from it’s list of concerns, at lease in places that aren’t in southern California.”

    The Left loves GLBTQ folk. The Left promises us everything, delivers zero and we keep voting for their candidates over and over and over. What other group of people can you continually lie to and still have them back your side?

    Now, the Right has never promised us anything yet they somehow come through. The very Right CA Supreme Court legalized gay marriage. Five of the seven justices were appointed by Republican governors.

    When the Briggs Initiative was on the ballot during the very Red state days of California along with Gov. Reagan at the helm, that amendment was voted down. It took Republican votes to make that happen.

    Then Ballot Measure 8 was up in 2008 under a very Blue CA, the liberal voters who flocked to Obama didn’t amass enough push to defeat Measure 8. Don’t blame Republicans for Measure 8 passing.

    In very liberal Los Angeles County, Measure 8 ended up 50 percent Yes and 50 percent No. There are not enough Conservatives in L.A. to garner 50% of any vote. But there are plenty of two faced liberals and the numbers prove it.

  5. “The Left loves GLBTQ folk. The Left promises us everything, delivers zero and we keep voting for their candidates over and over and over. What other group of people can you continually lie to and still have them back your side?” John in CA

    Great point, of course. 🙂

    But the reason that I think that they would love to drop gay issues is because of how they seem to think. Conservatives are more likely to think of people (regardless of the group they are in) as actual people. While liberals are more likely to think of them as voting blocks, demographics to be manipulated and/or bribed for votes.

    Obviously, our group is smaller than the black vote or the latino vote. Those groups are often more socially conservative, and judging from the folks I know personally they often have disdain for gay issues. That fact might just make more and more of those folks start looking with genuine interest at the right, especially as we keep getting more and more phenoms of color (the great Allen West comes to mind here) running for office. This in turn will inspire more self-education, and that can only result in votes lost to the right.

    So I can’t help but think that they would love to dump gay issues. And with these recent displays hehe, who could blame them? After all, we’re just a voting block, not actual individuals. 😉

    (If I’m preaching to the choir, tell me to hush. I’m sleepy right now, so judgement may be impaired.)

    “Longview, I post on a lot of conservative forums in the hopes that I can prove the stereotype of the typical gay person wrong. I don’t like being forced into someone else’s descriptive box.” Mel

    Over at Hannity, it’s kind of surprising (at least to me) how many conservatives are fine with civil unions, etc. They mostly want to keep DADT (but not all of them) and they mostly want to keep the word marriage, but most of them are certainly not the hate-mongers they are often made out to be. Even though I voted R for 2008, I took some prejudices over to Hannity’s forum. How wonderful it is to be proven wrong, sometimes. 🙂

  6. I have emailed Hannity more than once to let him know that I am Gay, Christian, and Conservative, not necessarily in that order.

    We are with the Conservative movement. Don’t shut us out.

  7. “Obviously, our group is smaller than the black vote or the latino vote. Those groups are often more socially conservative, and judging from the folks I know personally they often have disdain for gay issues.”

    I see your point. You are right about certain individuals in black and latino culture. THey can be very socially conservative. There were plenty of very religious blacks in CA who voted for Measure 8 (a position Obama disagreed with) and these same people enthusiastically voted for Obama.

    I don’t think the Conservatives view us as individuals though. I think if they did then they’d understand we are fighting for basic liberty and freedom that Conservatives espouse as matters of bedrock principle.

  8. John it’s not that conservatives don’t view people individually it’s that gays are looked at like a voting block in the US political view, just like blacks and latinos are (and no one cares what Asians think for some reason, racists…). The problem is that the most vocal politically are all one party and they are not conservative so conservative don’t pay attention to them for two reasons one because you are supposed to look at people like individuals and two because the gay political machine is on the other side. Do conservatives need to do better at explaining themselves yes, but if they start pandering to special interest voting blocks they are not supporting individuals any more. I like to use the term “political-gay” for the vocal gay activists because it looks to me like they use being gay as a political party (albeit on on the left) rather than a personal choice in sexual partners and they have a tendency to really just irritate people and rather than try to work with other people and have a real debate about the issues just attack everyone and do really silly things.

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